Book Recommendation: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*

We’re about a third of the way through January and I’d like to invite us back to this month’s theme, Self-Care. There are many articles, posts, tweets, InstaLives, etc regarding what self-care is and is not. A few key points that everyone seems to agree upon are:

  1. Self-Care is NOT simply a candle, book, and alone time
  2. A social support group is key (deepening meaningful relationships)
  3. Taking a moment to recognize if an activity is building you up or wearing you down

These points are woven in and throughout Mark Manson’s book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F* This book may already tell you what you know, but he also provides the WHY. The WHY we care, WHY we shouldn’t care, and WHY it’s important to make some changes if you want to move through life happily. It’s a dose of realism, not self-help. It’s tongue in cheek, but serious points within the chapters.

Take responsibility for everything!

We may not be responsible for what is happening or happened to us, but we are responsible for how we respond. You can take the stress out of your response, but always aiming for positivity itself is stressful. What’s the better response and more realistic approach to moving forward?

“With great responsibility comes great power.” The more we choose to accept responsibility in our lives, the more power we will exercise over our lives. Accepting responsibility for our problems is thus the first step to solving them.

Give a F* about the right things.

Is this meaningful to you? Are you wasting brain-space worrying/thinking about XYZ? You can only give a f* about so many things.

“Developing the ability to control and manage the fucks you give is the essence of strength and integrity.”


The “Do Something” Principle: Motivation


Oftentimes a task seems overwhelming or you’ve set the bar too high and you never do anything, therefore, you never feel motivated. But, you’ve just found yourself in a toxic cycle.
How do you find motivation?
Action–>Inspiration–>Motivation —> repeat

Manson states, “If we follow the “do something” principle, failure feels unimportant. When the standard of success becomes merely acting– when any result is regarded as progress and important, when inspiration is seen as a reward rather than a prereq- we propel ourselves ahead. We feel free to fail, and that failure moves forward.”

I chose to pull out these three points that we all grapple with on the daily. How do I find motivation, if nothing seems to be going right take responsibility for what you can and turning it around, and deciding if this worry is worth your energy.
Figuring out how to fine tune your reactions and responses to these questions can lead to greater insight into your well-being and how to happily trot through daily life.

How is your bingo card coming along? If you still need to download it, head back to this link and save the image to follow along.  This is where I’m at this month!Personal Self Care Bingo

If you skipped everything and just skimmed to the bottom, here is the takeaway:

Everyone has asked for a manual to life, living for dummies, how-to navigate life, at some point in time. THIS is the book that provides you the loose guideline you’ve needed. Unlike  when you’re putting together your IKEA table and end up with unexplained extra screws, Mark covers the bases and won’t leave you with more questions than when you started. 
I highly recommend this book, it’s a quick read that packs a punch.

 

 

Friday Favorites: Hulu, Doughnuts, & Spreadsheets

It feels a little like a Thursday and a lot like a Friday. These short weeks should be a regular thing. I’ve read compelling arguments for the shorter work week both here and here.
*If you’ve yet to download or receive a copy of January Self-Care Bingo, leave me a comment or download your image from the link!*

On that note, I’ve joined the link-up and here are a few Friday Favorites!

Friday Doughnuts

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Aside from needing to rescue my Tupperware from the office refrigerator, working from the office on Friday means a Top Pot doughnut. It’s the perfect incentive to occasionally cross the floating bridge on a Friday.

Younger

I’m not one for binging a television series, ever. But, I did watch four, albeit short, seasons of Younger last week. It’s comical, slightly relate-able, and takes place in Manhattan. Hillary Duff makes her debut back to television as an editor at a publishing house and a 40 year pretends to be 26 to get a job at this publishing company. 21 minutes episodes fly by and I’m highly anticipating the 5th season.

If you watch it, I hope you’re also rooting for Liza and Charles to end up together.

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2018 Planning & Goals

People generally fall into two categories when it comes to a new calendar year. Those that buy planners and those that don’t. I fall into the first category and I maintain that planner for approximately 50% of the year. Nevertheless, I enjoy planning out a variety of general goals I’d like to accomplish. It seems everywhere I look “goals” is a forbidden word this year, but sometimes a goal is the best way to fuel motivation to accomplish something. Intentions are the 2018 buzzword. Look at it this way, you build a foundation of intentions that are lasting and these help you to accomplish any and all goals. So, get it girl, GO BOLD, set BIG GOALS.
I see how both can fit into your life.
My friends and I sat together this week and created vision boards for 2018, a little serious and a little fun. I’ll have more on that next week.

Spreadsheets and Work Tools

Not the most exciting, but i’m helping out our staffing team this week with role placement and planning. It’s a great change of pace!

Reading for Pleasure

High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way is the book in my backpack. I have a separate post planned to take a closer at this book, but I’m crushing on it so much that I had to share a little early. It’s based on years of research and provides dozens of anecdotes throughout each chapter. If you want to learn more right now, check out his guest appearance on this podcast.  High Performance Habits: Episode: 104 with Brendon Burchard. (He’s also an Accenture consulting alum!)

If you decided to skim through the favorites, I hope if nothing else, you leave with a smile on your face from this dog picture.
This is Paisley, the 2 year old Samoyed!
Tuckered out from a day at the park and waiting for her owner to take her home & away from this gaggle of girls watching The Bachelor Premiere. 12/10 

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What’s your Friday Favorite?
Are you in favor of the 4 day workweek?

Rolling with Intention: Self-Care Bingo Day 2

Time to kick-off an intentional January. By the end of this month hopefully you’ll feel rested, collected, and ready to take-on what life hands to you.

Happy New Year!

I hope that both your week and new year are off to a great start and was relaxing as my own.

Monday was spent sleeping, cleaning, reading, and easing into 2018 after a raucous NYE party. The hairbrush microphone you’d think was left in the teenage years reemerged for us on NYE. Living room karaoke can’t get much better than our NYE 2017 version, it doesn’t take much to hype a group when music from the 90s starts bumpin’.

Today marks the perfect day to kick-off Self-Care Bingo if you have yet to begin filling in your card. Do you still need to copy the card begin filling in the squares? I added the link for anyone hoping to jump on the bandwagon and reset this month.

You can print off the card or keep it on your desktop. I’m choosing to keep it on my desktop and star each day as I complete an item.

Jan 1st: Read for pleasure- Check!

Personal Self Care Bingo

If you aren’t doing this self-care card, how are you living with intention this January?

A Year in Review: Travel by the Numbers

To all the MVP and those in the million miles club, congrats! It takes a lot of travel to rack-up the miles. Those of you commuting to work by plane every week, I’m mildly envious you can claim the miles and fly free for vacations!

This was a year of great travel both near and far for weddings, leisure, bachelorettes, and football. Out of curiosity and a desire to throw things on a pie chart, I dug into my Alaska member account and reviewed itineraries for an overview of my airport adventures.

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The second half of 2017 was truly a whirlwind! Looking forward to 2018 with a few plane hops already in the works!

What was your favorite getaway of 2017?

 

Let’s Play BINGO for Self-Care

As promised, I’ve brought to you the self-care bingo card that will guide you to be more mindful of everyday wellness. I plan to check the boxes off of this card along with you during the month.

This bingo card is intended to be personalized by the user, so you can add actions that personally build you up. The idea of caring for yourself is not all bubblebaths, saying no, or alone time (but those can be a part of it); self-care is setting aside time that reboots you each day. It’s equally important to relax at home with a book as it is to spend time with important people in your life.

It may be difficult to brainstorm 10 items, but brainstorming is a part of the process to understanding how you best function!

Spend the next week prepping your BINGO card and you’ll be all set come January 1st!

If you need clarifications, have suggestions, or feedback, please let me know!


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Ready to Ring in 2018

The new year is sneaking up on us and the holidays are slipping away. Make sure you’re drinking your fill of hot cider and eggnog, January will be here in the blink of an eye!

By December’s end I’ve hardly had my fill of twinkle lights, Christmas trees, and ugly sweater parties- if twinkle lights were hung up all year I’d be a happy camper. But, this is also a busy season and come January I feel the need for a small reset.

IMG_3243This year I’ve created a Bingo card of self-care activities in lieu of any other January reset. The card has 25 boxes to check off, you can easily earn Bingo by completing five activities per week and complete the  card by Jan 31st.

I’ve purposely left blank squares to allow you to tailor activities to your interests. What may energize me could bore you or vice versa. So, take the time to make it your own.

Check back Tuesday the 26th to download the Self-Care Bingo Card!

I’m excited to share this card with all of you!